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June 25, 2015


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Don't Count Your Eggs

Rebecca-- sounds like we might have gotten embies from the same pantry-- the process is really different for different people. I wish anyone going this route the best of luck


Definitely talk to your RE. You'd be surprised how many local REs are now encouraging their patients to donate once their embryos have been in the "pantry" for years and years without use. My RE has a small program where she only inquires about and accepts voluntary donations from patients who used egg donors (or in some rare cases sperm donors). The embryos that have resulted from these kinds of cycles have already shown a historical track record of success and are very high quality, therefore much more likely to stick for the recipient of the donation. This is a much needed reassurance for those of us who have already been down the long, long expensive road of IUI/IVF.


We are 35 weeks pregnant with a donated embryo. I've been following your journey and have found great comfort in reading your posts as you put into words a lot of the thoughts and feelings I've felt along this path. We have a six year old child which we conceived miraculously with no medical help after being told we would not be able to without it. When she was three we started down the road of creating a sibling. We had failed IUI's, failed IVF, and spent time contemplating being done growing our family. When the desire wouldn't go away we started looking at other options. We had heard about adopting embryo's through my research online, but didn't feel comfortable with doing a home study and all that came along with it with no guarantee of growing our family. After sharing this with our fertility doctor she referred us to a clinic in Seattle which had a donated embryo program. We instantly felt hope. The donation program took some of the emotion out. The program was very structured and had specific rules and guidelines on who is eligible to participate. We had to become patients of the clinic, we needed to have tried other fertility treatments before we could be a part of the program, and we could only participate in the program one time (which included 3 FET's with a goal of one healthy pregnancy). After we had selected our embryo it felt much like a FET cycle and were elated when we got a BFP on our first transfer. Now as I waddle around waiting anxiously for our little guy to get here I am so thankful for the option of embryo donation and feel so grateful for the family that selflessly donated a part of themselves so we could grow our family. Having been pregnant with a child genetically related to us and now being pregnant with a child not generically related to us I can honestly say there is no difference. I adore this child and long to meet him just like I did with my first child. The only difference is I am so curious as to what he is going to look like. I thought that with my first too, but the unknown is so much bigger this time around. Did the donors have some recessive red hair gene or is he going to have blonde curly hair. It doesn't really matter though, in five more weeks and I get to put a face to the wiggle worm that has been gifted to my family. Although I have big questions about the future and how we are going to share with him how he came to be a part of our family I am overwhelmed by the thought that genetics don't matter and they don't determine the level of love you can have toward a child. He is a part of our family and we all can't wait to meet him. Thanks for sharing your journey!

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